
Nervous System Regulation For Dogs And Their Owners
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Calm the Chaos, reduce reactivity and soothe the nervous system so you both FEEL SAFE to respond instead of react.
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Transform your stressed out dog walks into peaceful communication with our proven, step by step training method, you'll be able to start immediately and see results that will amaze you!
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I See You, Struggling Dog Owner.
If you dread every walk, feeling a knot of anxiety tighten in your stomach before you even leave the houseâyou're not alone. The constant stress of managing a reactive dog is crushing your dream of the perfect companionship.
The Walking Nightmare You're Living
Every single outing feels like a minefield. Your dog lunges, barks, and pullsâturning what should be a peaceful walk into a high-stress battle. Neighbours stare. Strangers judge. And you're left feeling completely overwhelmed, wondering if you're even cut out to be a dog owner.
The Painful Inner Dialogue You Can't Escape
Maybe you've caught yourself thinking:
"I'm not good enough for this dog."
"What if I can never fix this?"
"I'm failing as a dog owner."
"I'm so embarrassed by my dog's behaviour."
The Hidden Truth No One's Telling You
The real reason you're struggling isn't about your dog being "bad" or you being a terrible owner. It's that you've been taught to focus on training as control, instead of understanding your dog's emotional world.
But with a little effort and support you could have the calm, connected relationship you've always wanted.
The Good News? This Isn't Your Fault.
And more importantly, it doesn't have to be your future. There's a way to transform your walks, rebuild your confidence, and create the partnership you and your dog deserve.
Are you ready to learn how?

Anything IS possible

Imagine your dog walks are like a dance â but right now, you're both stumbling, stepping on each other's toes, completely out of sync. Every outing feels like a chaotic performance where stress is the lead choreographer, and connection is desperately trying to find its moment in the spotlight.
Introducing the Regulate to Relate Method â a revolutionary approach that transforms dog training from a battle of control to a partnership of understanding.
The cold, hard truth is that traditional dog training fails to recognise the dog's emotions. It focuses on obedience instead of connection. Your dog's behaviour isn't about being "bad" â it's a communication you've been misinterpreting all along.
This method works differently because it recognises a fundamental truth: there are two beings in any relationship, and true transformation happens when you address both. By seeing the problem from your dog's perspective and working from the inside out, you create lasting change that goes beyond surface-level commands.
Unlike traditional training that treats symptoms and not the cause, the Regulate to Relate Method dives deep into the emotional and physiological roots of your dog's behaviour. It's not about controlling your dog â it's about understanding them. This approach recognises that unwanted behaviours stem from unmet emotional needs, stress, and dysfunctional nervous systems.
You might be thinking, "I've tried everything. Obedience classes, strict training, countless YouTube tutorials â nothing works." But here's the breakthrough: behaviour occurs because of emotions. This method isn't about more commands or more control â it's about creating a genuine partnership built on mutual understanding and nervous system regulation.
INTRODUCING
Regulate To Relate
Discover how to regulate both your own and your dog's nervous systems for a deeper relationship and connection.
Imagine you both being able to calmly respond instead of instantly react.
 Regulate to Relate is a dynamic online group coaching program designed to help dog owners reduce stress for both themselves and their dogs, leading to calmer, more responsive pets and a deeper, more joyful relationship. Through a blend of pre-recorded lessons and live coaching calls, this program addresses nervous system regulation on both ends of the leash to transform your connection from reactive to harmonious.
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Master 5 core modules that teach you how to regulate your own nervous system and your dogâs, creating lasting calm and reducing reactivity.
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Unlock 6 live coaching calls with Q&A for personalised guidance and real-time support to accelerate your progress.
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Get instant access to proven strategies that reduce barking and improve your dogâs responsiveness, making walks and daily life more enjoyable.
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Eliminate guesswork with a comprehensive approach that balances owner and dog needs for true behavioural transformation.
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Experience lower stress levels and build a stronger emotional bond that makes every moment with your dog more peaceful and rewarding.
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Receive exclusive bonusesâincluding a Transformation Workbook and Emotional Connection Training Chartsâto track progress and deepen your understanding, absolutely FREE when you enroll today!Â
Module 1: Unlock the Secrets of the Nervous System â The Hidden Key to Transforming Your Dogâs Behaviour
Discover the powerful connection between the nervous system and behaviour, unlocking insights that will forever change how you understand and support your dog.
This module dives deep into the anatomy of the nervous system, revealing why it holds the key to your dogâs reactions and emotional world. By grasping how the nervous system functions, youâll gain clarity on the root causes behind reactive or anxious behaviourâknowledge that empowers you to create lasting calm and connection. This foundational understanding is the first step toward transforming stressful walks into peaceful, joyful experiences.
Inside Youâll Discover:
â How the nervous system shapes behaviourâunlock the science behind your dogâs emotional responses.
â Why traditional training misses the mark without addressing nervous system healthâand how you can do better.
â The surprising ways your dogâs nervous system impacts their wellbeing and your relationship. It is not just about the vagus nerve.
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Module 2: Break Free from Dysregulation â Why The Nervous System Gets Overwhelmed and How to Prevent It
Uncover the triggers that throw you and your dogâs nervous system off balanceâand learn how to protect them from common pitfalls that fuel stress and reactivity.
In this eye-opening module, youâll explore the causes of nervous system dysregulation and why itâs at the heart of many behavioural challenges. By recognising these triggers early, youâll be equipped to avoid situations that escalate stress and create a calmer, safer environment for both you and your dog. This knowledge is a game-changer for anyone ready to move beyond frustration and feel confident on every outing.
Inside Youâll Discover:
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The root causes of nervous system dysregulationâspot the warning signs before behaviour spirals.
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How nervous system dysregulation effects emotional resilience.
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Why dysregulation of the nervous system affects relationships and communication.
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AND MORE!
Module 3: Master Your Own Nervous System â The Surprising Path to Clearer Thinking, Calm Communication & Stronger Connection
Transform your own stress into steady calm, unlocking a new level of clarity and emotional presence that your dog will mirror.
This module guides you through nervous system regulation techniques designed for humans, revealing how your emotional state directly impacts your dogâs and your own behaviour. By mastering your own calm, youâll communicate more effectively and create a safe space where your dog can thrive. Discover the powerful parallels between human and canine stress responses and why your inner peace is the ultimate tool for change.
Inside Youâll Discover:
â Techniques to regulate your nervous systemâfeel calmer, think clearer, and act with confidence.
â How your emotional state influences your dogâs behaviourâturn tension into trust.
â Simple daily habits that build resilience and deepen your partnership.
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Module 4: Nervous System Regulation for Dogs â The Empathetic Approach to Changing Behaviour & Enhancing Wellbeing
Learn how to soothe and support your dogâs nervous system naturally, creating lasting behavioural transformation from a place of empathy and respect.
This module reveals holistic methods to help your dog regulate their nervous system, reducing reactivity and boosting overall wellbeing. By tuning into your dogâs emotional needs and using gentle, effective techniques, youâll foster a partnership built on trust and understanding. This approach not only changes behaviour but enriches your dogâs quality of lifeâmaking every walk and interaction joyful.
Inside Youâll Discover:
â Holistic strategies to calm your dogâs nervous system and reduce stress-driven behaviours.
â How empathy-based care transforms your dogâs emotional world and strengthens your bond.
â The secrets to enhancing wellbeing that go beyond obedience training.
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Module 5: Training with Emotions in Mind â The Revolutionary Way to Build Partnership and Lasting Change
Step beyond traditional obedience and embrace an empathetic training approach that honours your dogâs feelings and unlocks true cooperation.
In this transformative module, youâll learn how to integrate emotional awareness into your training, turning challenges into opportunities for connection. This method respects your dog as a sentient partner, creating a foundation of mutual respect that leads to effortless cooperation. Say goodbye to frustration and hello to a joyful, confident partnership that lasts a lifetime.
Inside Youâll Discover:
â How to read and respond to your dogâs emotions during training for deeper trust and faster progress.
â The secret to transforming reactive behaviour through empathy, not force.
â Why emotional connection is the missing piece in traditional trainingâand how to make it your superpower.
Discover the secret to training that goes beyond obedience for lasting calm.
SIGN ME UP!!Here is how the Regulate to Relate Method will transform both you and your dog.


"One of our happiest days together."
Yesterday was just a dream day due to my dreamboat. I went to a beach I hadn't been to before, to meet a few friends and their dogs. A few months ago I would have been so stressed about this. But he was incredible, had two perfect whistle recalls and he never once got the look in his eye where you can tell he's bored and is about to bolt. A long way to go but I think this was one of our happiest days together. Wouldn't have been possible without our guru Sarah Hedderly.










"Amazing learning space with so much information and support from Sarah."
We have only been in the Academy for a few months. I was reflecting this week on what an amazing learning space it is with so much information and support from Sarah as well as from other members. It is such a space space with no judgement and with so much respect for both Sarah and other members throughout their wins and challenges. Congratualtions on what you have created Sarah Hedderly. It is a rare find in today's virtual world and you should be so proud.
Hi, I'm Sarah Hedderly
Iâm a dedicated dog trainer specialising in helping owners of Border Collies, and their crosses.
As a Certified Control Unleashed Instructor, Real Dog Yoga instructor and Force Free Trick Trainer, I've have been running the Border Collie Academy since 2020. With the privilege of working with tens of thousands of Border Collies and their owners, I have amassed extensive experience with this remarkable breed.
I understand the dream of having a dog you can take anywhere. You want to enjoy walks and foster an incredible bond. I know that not all dogs come easy and my mission is to help everyone build the best relationship possible with their dog.Â
My dogs have been my biggest teachers. Mini is a sensitive soul who needs her training broken down into the tiniest of steps. Ding is a child genius who needs clear direction and enough stimulation to keep his busy brain satisfied. They have both made me read, learn and find new ways.Â
From my experiences I developed my innovative framework âDingBatt to Dreamboatâ. DingBatt arrived as a rescue with very challenging behaviour, followed by baby Beau, a typical movement sensitive Border Collie, and now Sparkles who has been a delightful challenge to raise.
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